Finding a partner online is nothing new any more. More and more people search for their significant other on dating platforms. They create a profile, present themselves the best they can, scroll through many faces and pick a few to get into contact with. We probably all have a friend who has used such platforms or who has successfully come together with someone. We also know the many failure stories, because finding a meaningful relationship through online dating is hard when most people really just want a one night stand or an affair.
Meeting the love of your life in an online roleplaying game isn’t that uncommon any more either. Because you play together with other people, you get to know one another. At some point your game related converstations become more personal, you see how someone plays, how he/she behaves while doing quests and raiding dungeons together, if he/she likes to assist you when help is needed. Becoming friends with some of the people you play with is only logical. Falling in love can happen just as easily.
A couple of weeks ago a guy named Raymond K Walintukan contacted me and informed me about this great app he and his colleagues have developed called LovelUp. With this app getting to know someone online and playing your favourite MMORPG are being combined: you are being matched with other players who enjoy playing the same games as you do and invite them for a play date. During gaming you get to know each other and who knows… a friendship or something more romantic may start to blossom.
Because I wanted to know more about the why’s and how’s of LovelUp I asked Raymond a few questions.
MMO Couples: What motivated you to create this app?
Raymond K Walintukan: I was at a friend’s house during New Years Eve and we were talking about how online dating is a terrible way to meet someone. Unless someone was interested in a one-night, hit it and quit it relationship, it’s highly unlikely that choosing the person you want to date purely based on a dating profile would lead to good matches. What can you really find out from a picture and a short bio? We both have many friends who have dated multitudes of times and never quite worked out. There had to be another way. We’re both avid gamers and realized how close of a bond was formed between us because of games. We would play at least 2-3 hours together per day after school and work. We end up spending more time in the game with each other, than with anyone else. In the end we became very good friends and our bonds are still strong today. I’ve heard the same thing about couples meeting online and then finally ended up getting married. I thought that’s got to be a great way for people to really get to know each other – the way they play games. Rather than talking over an awkward cup of coffee, why not try to go to a new dungeon/instance together?
Also in doing more research we came across MMO Couples. This blog definitely opened our eyes and hearts to know that this type of dating is already happening. Thanks MMO Couples!
MMO Couples: Why do you believe meeting and playing with people in online games is better way to find a partner than searching for someone on a regular dating site?
Raymond K Walintukan: It’s not based on the way someone looks. It’s a safe way for people to find out how others deal with frustration, or how generous and considerate they are. After playing for a few hours I think people generally are more honest and real about who they are.
MMO Couples: I suspect there is a selection of games I can choose from? Which games for instance?
Raymond K Walintukan: You can play any type of MMORPG. World of Warcraft, Star Wars the Old Republic, Final Fantasy. I have a friend who actually met their significant other while playing DOTA 2!
MMO Couples: Last but not least: how does the app work?
Raymond K Walintukan: Currently it’s a system that matches people based on an algorithm which we created. It takes into consideration a person’s age, orientation, and the games that they play.
Once a game date has been assigned, they come to a message screen where they can talk to each other and figure out where/which game to meet in. Instead of choosing a coffee shop or a restaurant, they’re choosing a server or a place to meet. The server will decide what common game works for both of them.
I am very enthusiastic about LovelUp and therefore want to support Raymond and his team by asking my readers for their assistance. LovelUp is in the beta phase, but no worries: if you haven gotten curious and want to try it out, you can sign up here to test the app on iOS and Android. There are no costs involved, the app is free as a bird :)
The LovelUp Team and I are happy to learn about your experiences with the app and the people you meet, so feel free to contact us: